Fear is just a four-letter word and it stops us from doing the things we really want to do. Fear keeps us from reaching our full potential and making us impotent on the greater success that we can achieve if we have the courage to throw it. Fear can stop us dead in our tracks, leaving us paralyzed. So how can you stop it from taking hold of your life?
EVERYONE IS AFRAID
First of all, it’s important to realize that everyone feels fear at one time or another. It’s part of the human condition. Goodness, just think about all the hundreds of phobias out there and you’ll get an idea. From achuluophobia (fear of darkness) to zoophobia (fear of animals), there are so many things to fear.
Feeling isolated in your fear just limits you and makes things worse.
This isn’t to make light of other people’s fears, but to remind you that you’re not alone. Feeling isolated in your fear just limits you and makes things worse.
Don’t let fear stop you. Maybe you’re not ready to dive into the deep end of the proverbial pool. So what? Don’t let it stop you from swimming altogether. Take baby steps. Start by getting comfortable in the shallow end of the water, and work your way up. No one says you have to dive deep or go home. Be kind to yourself and take your time. Step by step, you’ll eventually conquer that fear. No matter what you do—don’t stop.
REFRAME YOUR FEARS
Fear often stops us because of our attitudes. Do you see your fear as something huge, monstrous and scary? Approaching fear from a negative perspective will most certainly stop you from growing. So why not reframe your fears?
Instead of seeing that work assignment or life change as something horrible, why not see it as an opportunity instead? Perhaps that work assignment will give you a chance to learn a valuable new skill. And maybe that life change will lead to more rewarding relationships. When you look at things from this perspective, the fears won’t seem so bad—and you’ll be able to move ahead.
Sometimes, despite your fears, you just have to bite the bullet and do it anyway. Afraid to give that speech in public? Do it anyway. Afraid to share your feelings? Do it anyway. In some cases the best approach is to not think about it, and face the fear head on. When you do, you often end up feeling relieved and more confident. Don’t let fear stop you!