Keeping Your Comfort Positive

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Comfort Positive

Everyone wants to be in a relationship where they can be comfortable with their partner. But when the comfort becomes so strong that there is no longer any effort put into the relationship, it can cause a problem.

You never want to be in a place where you are forgetting to put your partner first even though you do want someone to remember the things that you need in your life and how to make you feel important.

Becoming too comfortable means that you are not putting your own relationship first. Once you start a relationship, you show your partner who you are, and you put effort into making them happy. As things get comfortable though, you don’t take time to make those things a priority in your life.

Getting to this point in your relationship means that the other person is comfortable with you, but it also means that they are the one getting the most out of the relationship while you are putting too much effort in.

Here are some signs that the relationship is getting too comfortable in a negative way:

Procrastinating

If you are always procrastinating talking to your partner about important things, it might mean that you are too comfortable. When you are putting things off day after day, it makes things stressful in the relationship and you aren’t finding out if you are getting your needs met and if they are too. You have to have these conversations even when they are hard to have.

You Stopped Enjoying Things

You need to enjoy your nights out with your partner, and you need to do things together that are fun. This can keep you and your partner loving each other and it can make the relationship deeper and more connected. If you are not doing things that are fun together, this is a problem.

Taking Them for Granted

Being in a relationship that is steady means that you still need to work on making the love show. Just because you are together with them all the time, it doesn’t mean that the love will always be there. You have to make sure that you are giving them the parts of you that are important.

Rude Comments

When you get comfortable with someone it can be easier to say rude things. You do this because you know that they will forgive you. You should never get comfortable talking to your partner in that way though.

Lacking in the Sex Department

Having sex should stay fun even if you have been with someone for a long time. If you find that you are just having mundane sex, this can be a problem. Long-term relationships need to have fun sex and it needs to be playful and intimate.

Having No Manners

When you have been with your partner for a long time you might lose your manners. You are probably too comfortable in your relationship when this starts happening.

Not Communicating

People that get too comfortable in their relationships forget that they have to communicate to keep the relationship strong. Communication is an important way that you can make sure that the relationship stays fun and effective.

Dating is about knowing your partner but when you know them, you still need to know more and not let it get boring.

Taking Care of You

You can’t stop taking care of yourself just because you have been with someone for a long time. This is not fair to you or to your partner. Don’t get so comfortable that you forget to look and smell good for your partner.

Show Gratitude

Even if you have been with your partner for a long time, you need to show them how much you appreciate them. You should never get so comfortable that you forget to say, “thank you.”

Boundaries

Boundaries are there so that people can be comfortable and safe. When you get too comfortable with your partner, you might forget that there are boundaries that they don’t want to cross. Make sure that you are being respectful of these things.

Knowing Their Thoughts

You might be someone that thinks that your partner knows what you are thinking all the time. This probably is partially true but not completely true. You should communicate what you are feeling with your partner so that there is no confusion.